• 20th October
    2014
  • 20
So I've been dating this guy for 6 months now. I haven't actually seen him since a month and a half ago, and we've only talked over text IF we talk at all (because we haven't actually texted that much). My question is if it's okay if I break up with him over text. I don't want to hurt him, but I really need to break up with him and I don't want to wait until we can finally see each other because honestly I have no idea when that will be. Would it be alright if I just explained to him over text?

Asked by: love-and-other-simplethings

It kind of depends on the relationship and maybe sometimes breaking up over text is appropriate and sometimes it isn’t. in the end that is up to you. I honestly don’t see much wrong with it because you don’t talk much anyways and i think that you’re making a good decision to break up because that isn’t the healthiest relationship anyways.

You may want to call him if that helps, or tell him that you need to talk to him and that its important, and then you two can schedule a time to see each other so you can talk about the relationship.

-Jamie

  • 20th October
    2014
  • 20
I want to visit my boyfriend who lives 7hrs away but my job scheduled me during the only times I will have a way to get there. I may be able to get coverage for most of the days but I will still have to call out at least once. I love him so much and I know he'll be patient enough to wait if I can't see him but I'm having a rough time. I really want to see him because he's the only person who really gets me. Is it worth the risk of having to call out a day to visit him?

Asked by: Anonymous

In the end, a decision like that is up to you. maybe you can find times for him to visit you or you can plan far in advance, get someone to cover your shift and meet in the middle where you don’t have to be gone as long? Maybe you can take a weekend off and stay there to see him, or he can do the same? Just try to talk with him and see what you two can work out. because school and work are still important so you shouldn’t really jump to jeopardizing them for a relationship even though it may seem like it’s worth it in the short-term.

-Jamie

  • 20th October
    2014
  • 20
I have this thing where I can't eat food at other peoples houses. It's got to the point where I barely eat anymore but I'm staying at my nanny&grandads for 3 days. Any advice?-Luu

Asked by: Anonymous

You need to figure out why you can’t eat at other people’s houses. Because your reasoning behind this is what’s keeping you from eating. Is it because you’re afraid of judgement? because you judge yourself? Because it makes you anxious? try to narrow it down as much as possible because that will define the issue and then you can start working it out.

Maybe talk to someone you trust. can you talk to your granddad about it maybe? they’re people who would care a lot about you and help you through this. maybe you could talk with a therapist. maybe this is a fear that you need to work through, maybe it’s something else. so you just need to find out what’s going through your mind. you can do it, luu (:

-Jamie

  • 12th October
    2014
  • 12
I think I might like this guy but I don't know him Ive see him look and me and smile so I'm hopefully that he likes me to but so far I know we don't have anything in common and I'm scared I'll get all awkward and mess any chance I have, any advice?

Asked by: Anonymous

Try not to keep telling yourself that it can get awkward, because then you’ll scare yourself about it so much that it might block you from being able to be yourself.

It is a little bit more difficult when you don’t have a lot in common, but it’s still possible to be with someone or at least be friends with them! (:

So try talking to him, alright? Maybe find at least one thing you have in common that you both like to do. Whether it’s watching a movie, going to a park or into a city for dinner, whatever it is, then you can find things to talk about and once you hang out more, it gets really easy to talk with someone and be yourself around them. It’s just difficult at first but you can get there.

-Jamie

  • 3rd October
    2014
  • 03
Okay so I know this is a weird question. And when other people ask it the answerer is always like "do whatever makes you comfortable." But I really really really would appreciate just a straight answer. I might have sex with my boyfriend but I don't know what to do about my hair.. Down there. Do I shave/wax it all? Just a bikini wax? I just want to know what's most common and what an average guy prefers. Please please help. Xx

Asked by: Anonymous

average guy tends to prefer shaven completely but to be honest hun just do whatever you feel more comfortable with as it’s not about him it’s about you.. xx

~Charlie

  • 28th September
    2014
  • 28
Hi :) I just want to say that if anyone needs to talk (even if it's an admin) im here for them. They can message me anytime for advice or even just to rant. I want people to be happy :) Have a great day!

Asked by: angelcupcake1

Thanks love! ^^^

  • 23rd September
    2014
  • 23
I always catch my health teacher looking at my chest. He's a male in his mid-30s and it's starting to make me really uncomfortable. What should I do? - Violet

Asked by: Anonymous

Hi violets, if it’s making you feel uncomfortable can you try talking to your parents about it or your school counselor and/or principle? This can be a serious issue and nothing should be making you feel uncomfortable like this. Please talk to a trusted adult.
-Yael

  • 23rd September
    2014
  • 23
I've been/felt depressed since august 2013 I always have the feelings year round but I hit my lowest lowest points from sept-March like that's when I self arm (aka cut shoulders and bruise wrists) I always usually starve too the feelings are coming back rn and I'm scared I don't like feeling this bad like I want to kill myself all the time but yet I can't describe my feelings nobody knows about this but me and I feel like if I ask my mom to see a therapist like idk what to say ... Help me-Julia

Asked by: Anonymous

Hey Julia. I know it’s scary, but you can get through this. And sometimes depression or whatever it is that is making you feel this way can have certain times of the year where it’s worse or easier. maybe it has to do with the seasons or school or something. Sometimes it isn’t really explainable at all.

But it’s good that you can identify when you need help. So get it early on alright? Talk to your mom. It’s not easy, and it might be scary, but it’s worth it. I went through depression with no help at all and it’s horrible. If you can get help from a professional, you should. You can work through this and you can get better. Start by talking to them about how you feel and how you felt last year. Keep in mind that this is all for you. They want to help you because you deserve to be happy. You can get through this.

-Jamie

  • 20th September
    2014
  • 20
I'm always so jealous of my sister, she has a boyfriend, she's really pretty, smart, funny, brave, outgoing, has clear skin, an amazing artist, has cool hair. I am nothing compared to her, I'm just really ugly and I have no talents and no friends...!

Asked by: Anonymous

There will always be people we want to compare ourselves to, love. And it’s not just you. And there will be people who get better grades than us, people who are better at a certain sport or hobby, and so on. But you can’t just assume that means you have no talents or skills or that you’re a lot worse than the person. You’re smarter than people too. You’re better at your talents than others. It’s nothing you can define.

And I know it’s difficult not to compare yourself, since she’s your sister, but you are your own person. You’re you. She is herself. You don’t compare to her because you are your own combination of awesome and she is hers. You have things you like to do and specialize in, as does she. Start working on thinking of yourself as your own person, you don’t compare to her alright? xo

-Jamie

  • 16th September
    2014
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